Top 6 Regrets of Former Brides & Grooms
Updated: Jan 8
Despite being one of the most magical days of your life, weddings can also be the number one cause of premature ageing and grey hair (not actual science, but sometimes it can feel like that). Balancing work & daily living with late-night Pinterest crawling, vendor research, and infinite guest lists revisions can feel like balancing on a tightrope over a vat of lava. So take a seat, pour a glass of wine and learn from the mistakes of those who came before you.
1. Insufficient vendor research
Any vendor you hire on will become a support beam on your wedding day. If something goes wrong with that vendor, it could throw off your entire day. You need to make sure that you’re hiring professionals. This means doing your research, reading reviews, asking to look through contracts, and meeting them in person.
“Other brides said that they were delighted they’d invested in booking a good photographer and others said they wished they’d chosen someone different. So it shows that it really pays to research your photographers carefully, it’s easy to look at their portfolios and galleries online to check their wedding style. Don’t just go for somebody who’s local – you only get one shot at your wedding photographs and they’re a key memory of your day.”
2. Wedding dress woes
From fake-designer dresses purchased online to the heavy & sweaty dress that you’re trying to maneuver on the dance floor, dress choice has been a source of regret for many brides.
“You can never be sure what you’re buying is the real thing, especially when it’s advertised as a designer name at a discount price. Remember the old saying – ‘if it’s too good to be true, it probably is’.”
“In hindsight, instead of splashing out for the Vera Wang dress, I would have bought a dress that was more like what I wanted and easier to move in on the day”
“I would have liked a second dress to change into later in the night. My dress was light and not super fitting so I could move really freely in it, but it did have a seven-layer skirt, and once the dancing started, I was warm.”
3. Catering and food
Sometimes watching all of your loved ones chow down on thousands of dollars worth of food leaves a weird feeling in your stomach. Be mindful of you’re catering budget and who you hire. Make sure to read reviews and sign a contract!
“Some brides and grooms regretted not allocating more of their budget for food, others said how pleased they were to have had good quality catering and what a difference it had made to the whole day.”
4. Lack of time
A common theme I’ve found during wedding days is the lack of time. Whether it be time to chat with loved ones, time to spend with your spouse, or time to revel in what you’ve created, the day always seems to fly by.
Many couples felt overwhelmed by the number of people they needed to socialize with, which left them feeling disappointed that they didn’t get a chance to talk with everyone.
“I spent the whole night dancing, which was amazing, but I wish I had visited with guests more”
“I do wish we had done a private ceremony before the vow exchange so my husband and I could have gotten more personal time alone with a more private, intimate moment”
5. Not taking group photos
Group photos might seem a bit cheesy and unnatural. You might be the type of person who prefers candid moments, but the likelihood of your photographer being able to grab all of your family together at once without a planned photo time is slim to none. It’s so much better to have those cheesy wedding group photos than nothing at all.
“My biggest regret would have to be not having taken the time to take photos with my family and close friends. I wanted all my images to be candid and didn't want to miss any moments away from the celebration, yet looking back at them now I wish I had a few simple shots with close family and friends.”
6. Not hiring a videographer
One of the number one regrets that I’ve seen is not hiring a videographer. The wedding day goes by so fast. All of the little details you planned, all of the family that showed up, your facial expressions during the vow reading, everything. Right now it might not be your priority but imagine in forty years being able to show your grandchildren exactly what your wedding day looked like.
“I wish I would have spent money on a videographer so I could relive the best day of my life whenever I wanted to. I would have also loved to show our daughter, Poppy, one day so she could see all of our amazing friends and family who created the most perfect wedding day.”
Meet Ariana, who is, ironically, a wedding filmmaker. What a surprise!
Ariana is based in Vancouver, British Columbia, and defines herself as the girl who is crying during your ceremony, in a good way.
If you want to learn more about her wedding films, click here.